Showing posts with label Everything Else. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Everything Else. Show all posts

Monday, December 13, 2010

The Art of the Well-Scrubbed Christmas Letter


We’ve all received them. Little Ginny won the spelling bee, Fred made the dean’s list, Dad got a big bonus, and Mom manages to cook gourmet, Martha Stewart-esque meals every night while working at an important job and volunteering in the kids’ classrooms several times a week. Even the dog’s accomplishments are listed – Rover just loves his daily 10-mile runs with mom or dad and even saved one of the kids from choking. The English rose garden in the yard might be mentioned. Some photos of the family vacation to Hawaii are included in the montage - along with a photo of the brand new car.

Every time I read such a token, cliché Christmas letter, I wonder, naturally, what’s being omitted. Based on my experience in ministry and with my own family (immediate and extended), I know that there are lots and lots of things people don’t want to write about in the Christmas letter.

What we don’t read in most Christmas letters is that (note, these are generic examples – check my Christmas letter for the real Howerton ones - although the photo posted is real). Johnny just finished his second rehab program, or that Mom suspects that Dad is a workaholic or addicted to pornography. No one mentions that Mom had an affair or that grandma is an alcoholic or that Aunt Margaret’s breast cancer is causing them to doubt their faith. We don’t read that parents are exhausted and in need of a break or that the family is depending on the local Food Bank for survival. We don’t read that anyone in the family is hurting or struggling or grieving. Instead, we see photos of families at their best - smiling, matching, and very put together. Readers are meant to envy how well the Joneses are doing.

I must confess, I’ve written this “all too put together” Christmas letter myself– sans the bragging about the spelling bee and dog (if you’ve smelled my dog, you’ll know there’s no way to brag about him.) In years past, I have definitely sent out a scrubbed clean recap of a year in Howerton family life. Most years, I’ve just sent a card and a photo, not knowing how to be honest and authentic without scaring the hell out of people. In a stark rejection of the Great Christmas Letter Expectation, I haven’t sent anything out for the last two years.

What’s incredibly ironic about the modern state of the Christmas Letter is that the story of Jesus’ birth, the very reason for the holiday, is not a very put together story. I’m pretty sure that Mary’s parents wouldn’t have sent out a Christmas card with a caption that read, “Our 14 year old magically got pregnant and then gave birth near farm animals! Merry Christmas!”

The whole point of Jesus’ birth is that messiness is redeemable – that there is healing and hope, that you DON’T have to have it all together, that you can come as you are. Honestly, in Jesus' economy, messiness wins.

It's when we think we have it all together that we're in trouble.

Saturday, August 28, 2010

My Tatted Up Granny

In honor of my grandmother's 80th birthday,I'm re-posting this. Happy birthday, Grandma Betty!
My 78 year old, churchgoing "don't smoke, drink, or chew and or go with guys who do" Grandma Betty went and got herself a tattoo over the weekend.
Yep. A real tattoo. On her shoulder. At a tatt
oo parlor. She was wearing her "God Bless America" t-shirt. Huge bald men with pierced noses and eyebrows and tattoos covering 80% of their bodies got my little old grandma all tatted up.

Like a teenager, she waited until my parents went away for the weekend to call my sister with her crazy plan. Delighted to be part of the mischief, my sister Andi (she's the baby of the six sisters) picked her up, drove her to the tattoo parlor and PAID for it HERSELF. Apparently Grandma Betty was quite the celebrity. She got hoots and hollers from passersby and talked the artists ear off the WHOLE TIME. Not a surprise if you know my Grandma. She's even gonna be on the tattoo parlor website.

Oh, and the tattoo was of Betty Boop. Betty. Boop.
Grandma Betty Lou was born in August of 1930, the same month and year that the little black and white cartoon made her debut.




Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Homecoming



I’ve tried to write a blog about Haiti every day for a week. Each time I sit down, I stare blankly at the computer screen, having no idea where to begin. I still don’t know where to begin but, am hoping that somehow this post will come together.

Part of me thinks that the world doesn’t need another blog about Haiti written by someone who wasn’t there for the earthquake and who, for that matter, didn’t know much about Haiti before the disaster.

But, this story is about my family and it has a happy ending. So, here goes.

On January 12th, Michael was home working on that week’s sermon, and I was working on a writing project. Michael yelled up to me that there had been a 7.0 magnitude earthquake in Haiti. At first, I didn’t understand the urgency and strain in his voice. It took me a full sixty seconds to connect that our sister-in-law, Kristen was IN HAITI, with her nine-month old infant, Karis. They were there visiting a little boy named Kembert, whom Kristen and her husband Mark had been trying to adopt for a solid two and a half years. They’ve visited him dozens of times at Heartline Haiti’s orphanage.

Even once I realized that Kristen was in Haiti, I still didn’t immediately understand the gravity of the catastrophe. There weren’t many photos of the devastation up on CNN yet. I grew up in Southern California where earthquakes were very commonplace, expected occurrences. So, I didn’t feel very afraid.

Until I started thinking about building codes in Haiti. Until I started realizing that 7.0 is a huge, huge number when used to describe earthquakes.

Then panic set in. I started scouring the news for information. Mike called his brother in Southern California to see if he had heard from Kristen. Thankfully, she had been able to leave him a voicemail just after the quake to let him know that she, Karis, and all the kids at the orphanage had all survived. We were relieved, to say the very least. You can read Kristen's account of the events here. The next day, we were unable to contact Kristen. For twelve hours we heard absolutely nothing from her. The home in which she was staying had no power and phone services were not working. I was so afraid.

Long story short, Mark and I and many other friends called and e-mailed the State Department, commercial airlines, and anyone we knew in Haiti, just in case they could get a message to her. It was amazing to witness Mark’s tenacious efforts to save his wife and daughter. He organized a small army to advocate on their behalf. There were plenty of horrifying, grotesque, tragic images on all the news channels at this point and we were panicking. We sent out e-mail requests, Facebook posts, and tweets, asking for prayer. And, people prayed. They prayed hard. Not just for Kristen and Karis and Kembert, but for the entire country of Haiti.

On Day 3, the US government evacuated Kristen and Karis to safety. Without Kembert. Because his adoption was still in progress, and hadn’t been finalized, Kristen had to leave him at Heartline. The State Department responded to Mark and I’s phone calls and e-mails within 24 hours. I am feeling incredibly patriotic these days. We are very lucky to live in a country that comes to get you, in the heart of a catastrophe, when you’re in trouble.

As soon as Kristen was on the plane, Mark started project “Bring Kembert Home.” Turns out that the small army he had organized had more work to do. We began advocating for humanitarian parole for orphans in Haiti who were in the middle of being adopted when the quake struck.

Within 24 hours of being home, Kristen was wanted for interviews on 3 local TV stations, CNN, and MSNBC. She told her story and advocated for humanitarian parole. The campaign for humanitarian parole for Haitian orphans went viral. People all over the world were writing letters, signing petitions and praying. Senators got involved, Governors responded. Even the White House stepped in to both approve and speed up the process.

All that to say, Kembert is home. HOME.

I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that our campaign influenced our leaders. Democracy worked this time, and I want to thank ALL of you out there who helped us. So many of you took up the cause and fought with us. So many of you hit your knees and prayed with us. I can’t thank you enough.

You can view Kristen’s interviews here, here, and here.

You can view Kembert’s homecoming here.

The Howerton Family is incredibly blessed today. Incredibly thankful. And still cognizant of the millions of desperate, hurting people in Haiti. If you haven't done so yet, please give. See my previous post for some reputable organizations to give to.

It's a strange thing to simultaneously celebrate and grieve.

You should also start reading this blog. The Livesays are a missionary family that has lived in Haiti for 5 years. Their home has been converted into a hospital. The stories they are telling beat anything I've seen on the news. Please commit to praying for them as they attempt to be the hands and feet of Jesus in haiti.

More on Haiti tomorrow. I have all sorts of opinions to share about news media, missionaries, and what helping Haiti really looks like….

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Thursday Morning Haiti Update

We were in contact with Kristen and her baby, Karis, in the wee hours of the morning today. We were able to give her information about two potential flights out of Haiti to Florida. She has an internet connection, for now. She was able to blog about her experiences this morning. She is safe and has food and water but is very emotionally shaken. Dead bodies are lining the streets and tremors continue to roll through the island. You can read her blog here.

Please continue to pray for the Haitian people. And when I say pray, I mean, hit your knees right now.

Please GIVE. Please give generously to one of the following organizations.

You can follow the missionaries Kristen is staying with here. This morning, they blogged that the best way for non-medical, non-Creole speaking people to help is to give money to an aid organization.

Heartline Ministries This is where Kristen is, it is the orphanage they are adopting from. Heartline is setting up makeshift clinics in the streets to treat the injured.

World Vision already on the ground

Samaritan's Purse already on the ground

Medical Teams International team arrives in Haiti today.

Overlake Christian Church We will take up an special offering on Sunday - or you can donate online and designate "Haiti" on the memo
Red Cross already on the ground

You can follow the missionaries Kristen is staying with here. This morning, they blogged that the best way for non-medical, non-Creole speaking people to help is to give money to an aid organization.

I will post more updates when I get them....



Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Latest Update On Kristen in Haiti

We have had no communication with Kristen for over 12 hours. Power, phones and internet are all out. If you are in communication with ANYONE in Haiti or anyone with the ability to contact someone there, please relay the following information from Kristen's husband, Mark.



Mark here: I have not had any contact with anyone in Haiti for about 12 hours. It seems they lost their phones and internet connections. We are working hard on options to get her and Karis out, but we have no way to communicate these plans with her. If anyone gets in touch with her or any of our friends in Haiti pass on this info:

- Kristen's flight on American Airlines has been cancelled. The 1st AA option for her is on the 21st, she has a confirmed seat.
- She's book on a Spirit Airlines flight on Sunday the 17th at 2:55.
- If she can get to the Airport tomorrow before 4pm, there is a cargo supply missionary flight that she can take... "MFI Missionary Flights". They have her info and are expecting her.


I'm very concerned and because we have no communication... at this point it may be best if she goes to the US Embassy.


I haven't mentioned anything to Jafta or India and plan on holding off for while, so if you see me with the kids please respect that. The problem is, they know something's up and are bouncing off the walls.





Thank you all for you continued and fervent prayers.

jh





Prayers Needed for Sister-in-Law in Haiti


My sister-in-law, Kristen Howerton, was in Haiti with her infant daughter and soon to be adopted son when a 7.0 earthquake struck. She has been in contact with her husband, Mark, and all three are safe. The Livesays, the American missionaries she's with are also OK. The children at the orphanage made it out of the building safely. You can read updates from the Livesays at http://www.livesayhaiti.blogspot.com/ or http://twitter.com/troylivesay . They are updating as often as they possibly can in the midst of power outages and general chaos.

This picture is of Karis and Keanan, taken just hours before the earthquake.

There are no commercial flights out of Haiti until at least the 17th. Kristen doesn't have a seat until the 21st. Please join me in praying for her and all those surrounding her.

We are thankful and relieved to hear Kristen, Karis, and Keanan are OK. But, there are thousands of people who are not OK, thousands that are still buried in the rubble. Haiti is already the poorest nation in the world, with 80% of its people living below the poverty line, on $1-$2 per day. The country was desperate before yesterday's earthquake. What little they had has been demolished. There are simply not enough resources within the country to address the overwhelming devastation.

Please consider donating to ANY of the following humanitarian relief organizations that are already on the ground there, building shelters, freeing people buried in concrete, distributing supplies, and helping counsel the grief stricken.

Heartline Ministries (This is where Kristen is, it is the orphanage they are adopting from)

World Vision (already on the ground)

Samaritan's Purse (already on the ground)

Medical Teams International (team will arrive in Haiti tomorrow)

Overlake Christian Church (We will take up an special offering on Sunday - or you can donate online and designate "Haiti" on the memo)